Parents of autistic children are often subject to scrutiny of their parenting strategies. At best this can be exhausting and intrusive; at worst it can lead to formal accusations of harm. The consequence is a society where autistic families are unable to access the correct services for their children, increasing risk of family burnout and breakdown.

Based on the author’s lived experience, this book looks at the different ways blame can manifest and how parents can manage these moments. It identifies when and why professionals may incorrectly raise safeguarding concerns without understanding the context of neurodivergence and how professional practice can be improved.